Self Compassion: The Key for Empaths and Mission-Driven People
How to move from harshness to inner resilience
As mission-driven people, we may be guided to new places that lead us beyond the “normal” patterns that society tells us are so important. Many reach this point when a certain milestone is met in career, home or family. We look around, and suddenly we see that even though we may have received everything we have asked for – the house, the job, the relationship – there is still a yearning for a deeper sense of meaning and purpose.
It takes courage to be in this in-between phase.
Reconnect with your inner compass
Reaching this point of questioning can feel scary and disorienting. It’s almost as if we need to reevaluate all we’ve been taught about “fitting” in, or caring about what the neighbors think, and start to listen for a deeper level of our “why”.
It’s a doorway to shift one’s inner compass from external validation to inner certainty.
You may not know where this guidance will lead you…and so there is a need to trust that you will be supported and led to a new place of deeper purpose and peace.
Uncertainty leads to new destinations
When you make the decision to listen to the deeper calling within you…something interesting happens. All of a sudden, you heart guides you to take actions that may have been unthinkable a year ago, a month ago, or even yesterday. For example, in quiet moments, you feel a deep calling to move from Seattle to Cincinatti. Or suddenly you want to take a painting class, when you have never picked up a brush before. Or you suddenly know it is time to build your relationship with a grandparent, and create a bridge instead of a wall.
Know that everything that is showing up for you - to learn and experience - is helping you reach that deeper sense of fulfillment that you long for.
Be kind when the path seems scary
Our hearts have a deeper sense of the trajectory or our lives, and what we are truly here to learn. For example, you may be learning a soul lesson with compassion that you are finally getting to wrap up in this lifetime. Or you may be healing generational trauma as part of your unique purpose for being here at this time.
Consider journaling on the questions below, to gain more insights on how you can treat yourself with more kindness and love.
Where is my heart guiding me?
How can I slow down and remind myself of all the progress I have made?
When have I followed my inner guidance in the past and things turned out even better than I expected?
How can I amp up my own trust – in myself and in the universe?
What are five things I have done well in the last week that I feel really proud of?
What quality - such as compassion, forgiveness, patience or generosity – am I expressing more of? Can I honor myself for this soul growth and learning?
Remember: the kinder you are to yourself, the more authentically you can show up for others.
Honor the process
Compassion for yourself starts when you realize that you doing the best you know how. You have always done the best you know how.
Learning involves trying something, gaining skills, falling, making mistakes, getting up and trying again. Have you ever seen a toddler learning to walk? It takes persistence and courage, but they keep trying! Eventually, they stay upright more than they fall. This too is what is required when we embark on new growth. It’s all part of the learning and growth process.
Beyond the learning cycle, there is a deeper truth about you that is unchanging. This is that you are truly magnificent. We each carry a spark of beauty and magnificence within us. It takes courage for you to show up and shine your light. You are here, and you are enough.
About me
I am a “Life Path Maverick”. I work with mission-driven people to move from stuck to fulfillment through classes, workshops, and 1:1 coaching. Learn more about me, and the resources, gatherings, retreats, and classes to help you create your thriving mission-driven life at www.diamondlightnow.com
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